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Substance in our daily lives will help to make us happy. 1 5/5 (1)

Substance in this context is the actual matter of a thing, as opposed to the appearance, shadow or reality. So substance is what is real or factual. And factual events in our lives can make us happy. Whenever you believe something good has happened in your life, double check that with the facts of the case to determine if substance is there and is real to make you happy.

One of the examples of the above is related to getting a job and earning an income. For example, if you applied for a job that is not real substance in your life because the objective is to earn an income – not just to apply for the job. That is just a formality and a part of the procedure/process. In addition, if attend an interview and felt it went well so you may get the job that is not substance. If you were offered the job and a starting date, then that is substance to certain extent or degree. But that can change between when the job offer was made and the starting work-date, as I have seen from others experience over the years. Starting the job in actually terms or working is the real substance and can make you happy. You have now achieved a job, for that you wanted and with an acceptable salary/pay, for example, in accounting and have actually started working. No more wondering about changes or maybe this or that may happen. Substance is now real because you have started earning money towards achieving you personal or family objectives.

For those in online business, the principle is just the same. No one just wants a Web site, from example, that is well designed, looks good and receiving hits to you site. The person who started the business site, for example, an online store or hosting service site, is looking for real paying customers or clients. So he/she will not rejoice with just hits that may even be irrelevant to his/her site offered services. They really desired shoppers, for example, who will pay for products or services or clients who will sign-up for paid hosting services. When that is achieved, then substance is factual and happiness will prevail.

If some online or off-line is in need of finding friends who will be their real friends, then those who are just clicking to sign-up as a friend but have never spoken to that person via text, phone, e-mail, and so on, will not be considered as a real. Just as a co-worker who works at the same place who never contacts his/her friend cannot be considered as a real friend because the substance or objective desired has not been achieved. Now to go see the person, offer to have lunch or after work conversation every now and then or even just to call to find out how the person is doing with offering to help if need be, will be considered as real substance and can lead to happiness as the objectives are being achieved.

Someone, such a worker who promises to do something for you such as a simple home repair, cannot be considered as substance until he service is done or even done correctly to your desire. Just being glad that he/she said they will do so, even for free, is not grounds for substance. Substance is when it is done because until that is so, stress and disappointment may very well surface and make you frustrated and unhappy. So look for the substance when the above is done and to your satisfaction.

The above are just a few examples but the principle is the same in all cases. We need to look for the substance in our lives so we will be happy. Too many people often settle for less and become frustrated, angry or stressed-out when they have not achieved what they needed or desired. They have presumed that things will be what they have not yet become and then become unhappy soon after because they have not waited for the facts to make sure substance is real and exists to ensure happiness. When the substance of the situation or case is there, then happiness will prevail – in almost every case, base on the examples and principle above.


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Quality friendship Traits 1 5/5 (1)

The Thanksgiving and Christmas Holiday Season (leading into the New Year) usually bring-out the best of friendliness and charm in many people. It is also a time that some people find easier to make new friends and companions. But in doing so, we are to remember some very necessary traits or characteristics that a person should posses and demonstrate before we consider them to be real friends this Holiday Season.

A kind-hearted person is always appreciated and loved by many. Here we must not consider the kind of kindness that equates to just charity, but one that will demonstrate humane and sincere love to all and anyone without unfair reservations. Some will say this is not possible, but friends who really care about others and their neighbors will show this (at least most of the time). It is a quality that is almost irresistible and always appeals to our good side of life and relationships.

Peace is one unique quality that never dies. No normal and mentally sane person will like a person who just sets their minds on being quarrelsome and cantankerous. A quiet and peaceful attitude can be very appealing and attractive at times – without being unassertive or showing lack of confidence. What is important here, for example, is that the person knows and recognizes that there is a time for everything and this applies to being peaceful and assertive at appropriate times.

Loyalty is another good personality feature to look for. It generally take time to build and maintain sustainable loyalty, but simple and sincere demonstration of this will build the long-term loyalty that all of us desire from family and friends alike. No one wants a person who will betray them at the slightest opportunity available. During good and unpleasant times in life (immediately or later as the friendship grows) this feature is well appreciate in everyone. Not many people are loyal today, even for the shortest period of time. So if we find new and good friends, this is important to look-out for.

Now faithfulness is not the same as loyalty. Since some people this holiday season will be seeking long-term friendship and personal relationships with others, fidelity becomes an immediate quality to look-out for. We know many people (men and women) can be very charming or polite, for example, all year-long. But sometimes, they are more likely to be so at this time of year for their own personal objectives. How to ensure that friends and potential friends are faithful is not easy. But as the days and weeks progress, clues, ideas and methods, for example, will become apparent to almost all of us and we will know from fact or intelligent reasoning whether a person is faithful. Unfaithful friends and companions never make thing better for anyone because they generate consist mental and emotional pain that are hard to accept and live with.

Others like self-control, meekness and appropriate communication skills are important. No one wants to go-out and enjoy the holidays with a person or group of persons that have no ability or discretion in controlling their emotions, beliefs and feeling, for example, in a mature and responsible way. And who likes a boastful person who will embarrass your family and close friends this season at parties, trips, dinners and such alike. So to talk and show the ability to relate to all levels of persons in your family and friends circle, also matters from the person or persons we will consider for friends. Shouting at kids, for example, and laughing excessively at older folks because of their lack of compatible communication skills, is not good. Potential friends and companions need to show good communication skills that are respectful and admirable to everyone.

Now there are other factors apart from the above, but those are important to many people. When we socialize this holiday season, we can remember the above and decide if our potential friends, companions or otherwise, are those who we believe are showing excellent the reasons why we can or should continue being pals with them.


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